Oil, Meet Water
Of the people who are close to you, who is the person most unlike you? What makes it possible for you to get along?
Kit is my oldest, closest friend – friends since we were eleven years old.
She named herself Kit the Wit when we first met.
And she named me Dort the Snort (not particularly flattering but I took the humiliation).
We still go by those insanely silly names and when we are shopping together she will holler out, “Hey Snort, look at this!”
And I will say, “That looks great on you Wit.”
And she signs her letters, “Love, Wit.” And mine are, “Love, Snort.”
The names no longer sound funny to us but I’ll bet they do to the rest of the world.
Kit and I are total opposites in almost every way.
She is disorganized. I am organized.
She is fun loving. I am serious.
She is pinned together. I am put together.
I never put things off ‘til later. Kit procrastinates.
I am always early. She is always late.
She sleeps past noon. I am up with the birds.
I am careful. Kit rushes headlong into the next adventure.
What makes it possible for us to get along?
Laughter.
We cannot talk long without doubling over laughing.
Trust.
I know I can trust Kit with anything and can share my most secret thoughts. And I know she feels the same. We share a mutual trust.
Silliness.
When we are together we are “girls” again, talking until 3:00 AM like when we used to “spend the night” together.
Differences.
Maybe it is because we are opposites we so enjoy each other and that was what drew us together in the first place.
Value.
I value Kit for her free spirit and her abandoned uninhibited approach to life. And I suspect she admires my careful analyses of life’s dangers before I jump into things.
There is only one catch. After three days under the same roof, we weaken from lack of sleep and there is a rapid decline in communication. You might say that after three days “we are at each others’ throats.”
Memories.
But we are like sisters who occasionally fight. I have known Kit longer than I knew my own parents. We played paper dolls, rode bikes, giggled over boys, traded clothes, dated, married, had kids and grandkids and have stayed friends all these many years. We have so many memories ranging from childhood to old age and we share a rare and beautiful friendship that has endured over decades.
If you are reading this Wit, I love you.
What a beautiful friendship you have there, Dor. A precious gift, indeed.
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You are right there Eliza and each year the friendship gets more precious.
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Wait, wait, wait……you are SERIOUS??????? Since when? You are one the most humorous people I know, Snort. 😉 😉
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This is fantastic, such a wonderful friendship! I smiled while reading it and laughed at the witty ending!
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Love Love Love this post. I have a “Wit” in my life and wouldn’t trade her for the world. Laughter is out glue.
I love your cover picture by the way.
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A friend like that is a rare treasure – you are so fortunate to have each other ~ but you knew that, hence this post!
I have a friendship like Snort’s & Wit’s with my cousin – she’s my first best friend. We’ve been buddies since we were in diapers and we just “get” each other. 🙂
Wonderful post!
MJ
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I love this, Dor! I could relate so much to your friendship with Kit. I have the same type of friendship, since we were eight years old. It’s such a comfort.
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I absolutely loved reading about your friendship with “Wit”! That is wonderful. I love the nicknames you two have for each other, and I must admit, if I were shopping and overheard someone say: “Look at this, Snort.”, I would probably strike up a conversation with them!
There aren’t many friendships that surpass the test of time, but those that do, are the sweetest.
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I love everything about your friendship, especially the laughter and silliness :). How wonderful to still have a close friendship with someone from such a young age. My closest friend from childhood passed away from cancer a few years ago, and it was truly like losing part of my childhood. Fortunately, losing her has caused me to reconnect with another friend of mine from years ago, and it’s wonderful to have someone to talk about the old days with. Cherish that friendship Dor!! 🙂
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My goodness what a great tribute to your best friend!
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Wonderful, Dor, just wonderful. I loved meeting Wit and agree completely about how special long-term friendships are. Isn’t it a relief just to “be” with somebody who totally gets you? And loves you anyway? My friend, Kathy, in New Jersey is this to me. The phone rings and we pick back up where we left off last. We both lost our dogs within weeks of each other and our weeping phone calls got us both through it. Oh, and for the record, I’m early too! XXX
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How lucky you both are.
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Cindy, you make me smile and I feel so good that you think I am “humorous.” Thank you! I think I can be that way in writing, but in real life, the funny side is a bit submerged in favor of worry, guilt and determination to meet personally set goals. Double personality. I like the “me” in writing better though and I’m so glad you recognize her.
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Thank you Daniela! Wit and I do have a unique friendship that has never changed even though most of our adult lives we have lived thousands of miles from each other.
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Then we are both lucky since we have such comfortable long time friendships. And laughter is the glue that holds the Wit/Snort pair together too.
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Thanks MJ! You are right in calling the long term friendships “treasures.” I’m so glad you have a priceless Snort/Wit relationship too.
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Those friendships are truly remarkable aren’t they Jill? And the special thing is, when Kit and I meet up,there is no “getting used to each other” period. We are best friends again exactly the way we were when we were 11 years old (hopefully a little wiser but not much).
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You are so right Dianna! Wit and I have definitely “surpassed the test of time.” We haven’t had anyone come up to us to strike up a conversation but we have certainly had some odd looks. I’m so glad you enjoyed the Wit/Snort post though.
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Oh, I am so sorry you lost your closest friend from childhood Cindy. That had to be very hard. Wit and I go so far back that I can’t imagine being without her.
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Thanks Mary. I do hope Wit reads this post. I am not usually so mushy in real life but can put it all down in writing.
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Another coincidence. My old friend Kit/Wit is really named Catherine. And of course you are right on when you say how comforting it is to be with somebody who “totally gets you and loves you anyway.” That’s us and even though we are usually thousands of miles away we are there to share. You are early too? One of the rare ones. With Kit, I arrive a half hour early and she arrives a half hour late. That means I used to wait on street corners for an hour and be fuming by the time she showed up. I couldn’t stay mad for long though because we would begin laughing.
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That’s so true, Dor! We still call each other “Nerd.” 🙂
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Truer words never said…. 🙂
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What an absolutely lovely tribute to your lifelong friend!
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What a great post! This is one you’ll cherish for a long time.
Nancy
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So precious, and so rare… 🙂
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🙂
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Thanks Dor.
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You have something special that not everyone gets to enjoy.
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What a blessing to have such a long-lasting friendship.
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What a beautiful tribute to your friend. I’ll bet she’s loving that street sign you posted and your sweet comments. 😉
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I’m not sure she has seen the post yet Judy but I know she will be thrilled when she does.
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Snort: I read this at work and was laughing out loud; am sure others in office heard me and wondered – but boy Snort – I loved it and of course it was all true – but we could add a lot more here – like our ‘moonbaths’, ‘put your face in the sun Snort’, playing spin-the-bottle, your father asking ‘don’t they feed you at home’, your mother always with her great sense of humor – laughing – always laughing, our competitiveness at jacks, at spelling bees,teasing ‘Pee Wee’, your brother…. I could go on forever, Snort- we both have amazing stories to tell.
How glad I was when we got our babysitting job and we could go to Lerner’s and outfit ourselves to look like ‘twins’….Yes, we were in every sense of the word ‘sisters’ and I still consider you my dearest friend – the one who knows more about me than anyone in the world – the one who has given me advice on relationships and everything else through the years, the sensible one who advises the scattered one but knows deep down she can’t change her – she always has been, and always will be, the ‘disorganized’ flighty one.
I love that you would write that blog about us Snort – and I think I’ll forward it to a couple of people – I want them to know a little about the history we share.
Love You Always and Forever my Friend………Kit the Wit
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Hey Wit, I’m so glad you got to read the Kit-the-Wit post and that it recalled so many memories. Our memories are what make our friendship so special and we are still making them. So don’t lose touch old friend and let’s keep the BFF thing going. Love, Snort
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I have also know Kit B many years and consider her to be a most treasured friend……history is great….the popcorn machine was a home staple in the kitchen in Kit’s home town
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Kit has spoken of you Marlene! I wonder if she knows how many people love her.
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