Have you got a code you live by? What are the principles or set of values you actively apply in your life?
I was brought up to believe people are good.
That means I think they are nicer, smarter, prettier and in general – better – than I am.
There have been some rather obvious signs along the way that not everyone is perfect.
Still, I maintain the attitude adopted as a child that everyone I meet is “good.”
For instance, I have stopped carrying pepper spray.
However, I do sleep with a can of bee spray next to the bed (supposed to give you better aim than pepper spray and for longer distance).
But what if a marauder/thief/rapist is actually a “good” person in disguise? Well, at least bee spray is not designed to kill people – only blind them. Therefore, if you are a basically good axe murderer you will live to attack another day.
This may sound a bit noble but really, when I think someone is good and they do bad things, I am really shocked and sadly disappointed.
Because if I think you are smarter than I am and you do ridiculous things or demonstrate stupidity, then I am rendered grief stricken.
I heard that expecting the best of people makes them strive to live up to your expectations. Maybe my strange code for living has its upside and that is why I think all you blogger friends are so “good” until proven otherwise.
Actually it’s rather pleasant thinking every person I meet is better, kinder, smarter, and more attractive than I am. This leaves me no hope of ever being good enough myself to live up to my own expectations and I can relax. I know – this may only make sense to me.
Meanwhile, please don’t worry about failing me. Over the years, since I discovered most people are not perfect, I have added one more codicil to my code for living:
Forgiveness.
I am cautious but trusting. Of course I did human resource work and that can kill the concept of “good” people although I found some very good, kind people too.
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This is great, Dor! Do you really sleep with a can of bee spray by your bed? I shouldn’t laugh…I used to sleep with a rubber hammer under mine. 🙂
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I promise we will leave our axes at home. Please don’t blind me with the bee spray!! LOL
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I would never have thought of bee spray as a personal weapon. Forgiveness is the best tool in the kit.
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I like this post. I am actually quite the same way. I assume all people are good unless they prove otherwise. yet in still, I always follow intuition and remember, everyone wears a mask but that mask does not necessarily mean they are hiding an inner serial killer
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Thanks Kate. Being in HR you would definitely have a more realistic view of the human race. I’m still learning. 🙂
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I did sleep with the bee spray for a while but then moved it to the closet. Then we discovered a huge nest of in-ground hornets/wasps and I donated the spray can to a better cause. I still think it’s a great idea though and will have to remember to replenish my supply. 🙂
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Hahahaha! You shall stay sighted until further notice, but FYI, I will stock the guest room with bee spray for your own protection.
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Good description Patti – my personal weapons kit that includes bee spray and forgiveness. 🙂 LOL!
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Thanks for visiting my blog and for your very nice comment.
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You’re welcome, it was a pleasure.
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You are such a good friend :).
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I don’t know if it’s more realistic or more cynical. You are much better off.
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Dor, you always have such a great way with words! Bee spray at your bedside, huh? I admit I’m not that kind as I slept with a wooden baseball bat at my side when hubby used to travel overnights for his job. My aim was to beat the stuffins’ out of any midnight marauder who entered my home. :O
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Humans are an interesting bunch, you always know how to bring reality to your words – can’t live with them and can’t live without them. Bee spray, now that’s a great idea.
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Thanks Mary! And the bee spray is said to actually work. I haven’t had to use it yet since everyone I know is good. LOL! 🙂
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Remind me not to visit you in the middle of the night Cindy! Unless I bring my bee spray with me. 🙂
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Truth, I understand, is stranger than fiction – also much more reliable. 🙂
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Ditto! Good friends are hard to find – especially those not carrying weapons. 🙂
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You know how to make me laugh, right out loud!
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🙂 🙂
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What a great post and philosophy
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If I worked in a place where the public had easy access, I’d probably keep a can of wasp spray on my desk/countertop. I think it would be the perfect weapon in case of a robbery.
Your post is thought-provoking. Growing up poor, I’ve always looked at most folks as being better OFF than me, as in having nicer things, etc. I still am intimidated by many, although Motor Man works hard to help me not feel that way. I’m not sure: is that the same as thinking they’re better than me??
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I was taught the same, but quickly found out that people are often not as good as one might expect them to be. So now, I am cautious. I have the spray and a tazer 🙂 Love that you added forgiveness on the end of your post 🙂
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Well, we are two peas in a pod Dianna, thinking others are superior. It doesn’t matter how – smarter, kinder, more beautiful, richer. Motor Man is a gem. Bill and I are very much alike although he’s far more confident than I.
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Caution is a good thing since it is an automatic protection from the not-so-good people out there. I keep “livin’ and learnin’ and still seem to throw caution to the winds (except for the bee spray of course). 🙂 *hugs*
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The bee spray made me chuckle! (Is it true?) Expectations of the best, yet granting friends forgiveness… a great mantra. I suspect it will allow many lasting relationships.
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Thanks for visiting my blog Rogershipp. And – Yes, the bee spray is supposed to work. I haven’t personally tried it yet having only encountered “good” people with no evil intentions.
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Glad to know… and glad you have not had to find out!
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